Couples Basics and Beyond
I provide couples therapy services to new and established couples hoping to improve their emotional connection. Couples benefit most from research informed interventions to resolve disputes, improve communication, and to create a secure atmosphere to transform your connection. I use Emotion Focused Therapy, Gottman Method interventions, and interpersonal techniqes.
Intensive counseling is offered for those couples that need a longer session to work on their goals. Although insurances will not cover these sessions, they can be vital when dealing with the discovery of an affair, or working through significnat difficulties.
Emotion Focused Interventions
Secure Attachment and Creating New Cycles
Using the evidence-based therapy protocol developed by Dr. Sue Johnson to enhance a couple's connection. EFT applies principles from human bonding/attachment, learned in childhood, that affect us in our intimate relationships in adulthood. Negative interactive cycles emerge for many reasons, which lead to disconnection. Understanding each partner’s needs can help de-escalate conflicts, and lead to greater validation. Partners learn ways of reshaping their attempts to being responsive and deepen their connection.
Challenging Conflict and Contempt
Communicating Appreciation and Fondness
Building Trust and Commitment
Gottman stragegies represent behavioral changes to discontinue problematic interactions and to replace them with positive strategies leading to a stronger marriage. “Combining the knowledge and wisdom of nearly forty years of studies and clinical practice, Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Through research-based interventions and exercises, it is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically-based therapy. Intervention strategies are based upon empirical data from Dr. Gottman’s study of more than 3,000 couples. This research shows what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship.” (Gottman.com, 2016).
Determining to stay together or separate.
I am Certified as a Discernment Counselor, and have been providing short-term counseling (5 sessions) or less to make a quality, informed decision about your relationship before turning to a divorce lawyer. The process assesses if you are leaning in to stay together, or leaning out for a termination of your marriage. Often, when people decide to get a divorce, many people have second thoughts and wish they could have explored their options further. This gives you a chance to do just that.
Behavioral and emotional strageies for lasting intimacy.
I use several behavioral techniques and communication strategies to increase intimacy levels and desire. I also coordniate with physicians and pelvic floor specialists in the area to address sexual pain and frustrations from overtaking your love life.